Can anybody else relate to this?
I sometimes look at people and seem to analyse their sex life by how they look… In themselves and at one another…
Im doing it a hell of alot recently specially with couples. Most of my friends are in relationships and we tend to talk about our sex lives (being girls everything inch is spoken about, literally) now I’ve always know the limits with them. I know after dropping a few bombs on them with my sex life I can’t exactly tell them everything because they just don’t get it. But I actually feel like I have some magical sex life detector in my brain ?
I saw my friend and her bf the other and ( I don’t know who else does this) my first reaction was, “there is no way she lets him do…. well anything” and obviously speaking to her in general and the girly chats there is literally no sex life there…
it’s not just them it’s everyone I seem to look at, at the moment. I just seem to see these two sexual characters in front of me… instead of people…. I just see their sex life.. and honestly, I clearly need new friends ?
I’m wondering how many people out there settle in relationships and never really fulfil their fantasies. Which also brings me onto another question. Should fantasies stay fantasies or should they be explored?
Let’s throw a hypothetical out there:
Situation: Rape Role Play
A couple: the boy maybe the girl fantasies about this particular situation. Watches porn to this, and gets off to this.
The couple are comfortable enough to be able to tell each other about this fantasy and are happy to explore that with one another.
Personally I think that’s absolutely fantastic, they’re comfortable and safe with one another.
BUT this is a massive taboo in our culture.. why? Did I just bring up culture? Am I growing up? Hmm ? I digress…
So I was reading an article the other day about rape role play from a porn star… she was being absolutely slated for filming the scenes of this? Why?!? Because it’s bad… but her response was… I’d rather someone live out their fantasies with me and keep it in their room, than go out and actually do it to somebody (I’d agree with this) BUT the response threw me a little… which was along the lines of: People watch this again and again and then become hardened ( haha ?literally) to it. Basically saying that when you see something enough you don’t think it’s as bad.
Like the first time you see a dead body it’s horrifying, you’re probably sick, the second time, just as frightening but maybe not so much, third time, it starts to get easier.
I guess it’s the same with this porn situation.
They becomes so desensitised to it that maybe they don’t see it as something wrong.
I’m actually fighting my own battle with this argument because I actually see both sides of the story.
Although I’d much rather play it out in the bedroom ? or a quick snatch on the street ? I mean… it’s got to be realistic right…. ?
Anyways people… what’s your opinion on this?